Written by: Kristen Oliver
Have you ever felt like you are hanging on by a string? You seriously cannot adult today. Have you been there? I can tell you I have. It’s NO WAY to live. Remember the last post I talked about how I Wish I Was Better? Striving for balance in all areas of my life is part of that process. If you haven’t achieved perfect balance between mind, body and soul, then this post is for you too. But if you have you can stop reading now and go back to your perfect life. For the rest of us normal people I have discovered that…
Balance will not happen on accident& to achieve balance, we have to be intentional about rest and quiet time.
In our society I feel like we only seek rest out when it’s our last option. First, we are required to completely exhaust and deplete ourselves before we deserve a break. Like I said earlier, this is no way to live! When we get to this place of feeling empty and exhausted, not only does it affect us, but others around you.They will notice too. We will have nothing to offer ourselves or anyone around us, we will be an empty vessel. I have found that it takes a long time to get back to normal from this state. I find it hard because this is something you have to do for yourself. It’s not like a job where you have a boss setting the parameters, it requires self-discipline.
But maybe you aren’t even at the place where you think taking a break is possible or even necessary for you. I’ve met people like that, they seem super human and can do it all. So how do we compare to that? We don’t! No matter how other people handle themselves, you cannot control their actions or reactions, only your own.And for me to have rational responses and actions, I need to have balance in my life. So…entertain me for a minute….
Our bodies include a physical, emotional and spiritual side. They all complement one another. I’m sure you can attest to this, when one is out of balance the others are as well. Now, this may look different for each person. Your “out of balance” may not be obvious to people around you, or it may be too obvious. Either way, balance is something even Jesus strived for when he was living in earth. Several times in the Bible Jesus talked about retreating to a lonely place to pray. This is amazing to me that even Jesus hit the pause button on his day and stopped to take a rest and pray to God.
“Eight days after Jesus said this (predicts his own death), he took Peter, John and James with him and went up to a mountain to pray.”– Luke 9:28
However, this does not mean once we decide to embrace rest and quiet time with the Lord that it will always be at the same time, same way and have no interruptions. That is simply not going to happen every time, or even most times. You will be faced with schedule conflicts, people texting/calling/Facebook messaging/snap chatting, and a bunch more interruptions if you have kids! For people, like myself, that thrive on structure, schedules, routines and plans, you can understand that an interruption, scheduling conflict or even emergency frustrates me when I’m trying to take my “scheduled” rest or quiet time. BUT when Jesus would retreat to his lonely place to pray he was also faced with these situations.You know what he did? He used the opportunity to minister to people. He didn’t allow it to annoy him and take it out on the people, he heard their concerns, he healed the sick and most importantly he taught them about the kingdom of heaven.You can see in Luke 9:10-11 a prime example of this:
“When the apostles returned, they reported to Jesus what they had done. Then he took them with him and they withdrew by themselves to a town called Bethsaida, but the crowds learned about it and followed him. He welcomed them and spoke to them about the kingdom of God, and healed those who needed healing.”
Luke 9:37:“The next day, when they came down from the mountain, a large crowd met him. Luke 4:42:“At daybreak, Jesus went out to a solitary place. The people were looking for him and when they came to where he was, they tried to keep him from leaving them.”Luke 4:15:“Yet the news about him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.”
Many things clamor for our attention, and we often run ourselves ragged attending to them. Like Jesus, however, we should take time to withdraw to a quiet and deserted place to pray. Strength comes from God, and we can only be strengthened by spending time with him. (pg. 1675)
I want to leave you with 1 question to ponder and 1 question you can apply to your life…
Has rest been a hard principle to incorporate in your life? Why do you think that’s the case?
What is one way you can rest this week? (it doesn’t have to be a full-on vacation, think 10 mins of alone time, allow yourself that nap, schedule in time for reading, call a friend, go on a date with your significant other, do something/anything that makes you laugh…)
Thanks for reading. As you know I write from my personal experience, I am a certified teacher and believer in Jesus Christ, I spend time studying the Bible and ask my husband questions since he is ordained, but I am in no way perfect. I am struggling just like you, my outlet happens to be writing so I can share what I am learning with others. If it helps, enlightens or brings one person understanding then my struggling and issues are worth it. So thanks again!
One of our REST days included doughnuts!
This is what I call BALANCE
The boys approve