Guest post By: Mike Oliver
This is the first time I have had the opportunity to right on my wife’s blog. I just wanted to thank her for the opportunity to share what’s been on my heart. I have said a couple different times to my wife, during this transition that I had the itch to speak and teach. Hopefully this next part is not only a teaching moment for myself, but also a teaching moment for everyone struggling in this season of their life.
The past month and a half I have personally tried to lay low. My family and I have been in transition since Thanksgiving and it’s been an interesting season in our lives. During that time, I have had an abundance of time to digest, reflect, pray and spend time with family. The time with my family has been great. BUT when you have time to digest and reflect, there are these random thoughts and ideas that start creeping into your life. I’m no different than anyone else, I have been struggling recently.
One thought that has continued to plague me these past 5-6 weeks is something that I believe every person has asked themselves at least once, if not multiple times in our lives. That thought has been:
“Am I good enough?”
This question has started consuming me. I have had many restless and sleepless nights. For a person who is so confident in himself that it borders arrogance and cockiness; this was a new low for me. I had to change something up in my life. I knew if I didn’t, this thought would overwhelm my life and ultimately spill out into my family and friends. So I decided to make a subtle change in my life. I started doing something more frequently that my wife normally does, READ and WRITE!
I got the book (Un)Qualified by Steven Furtick for Christmas. This book is filling the exact need where I am at right now! It’s an easy read and would recommend to anyone. In this book, Pastor Steven goes into depth about Jacob and how unqualified he was to do God’s work. The truth is, WE ALL ARE UNQUALIFIED! The good news is that God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called! Throughout Scripture God uses people who were far from qualified, like Jacob and Paul.
We all ask ourselves these questions at some point in our lives:
Am I good enough at my job?
Am I a good enough student in school?
Am I a good enough parent to my kids?
Am I a good enough husband/wife to my significant other in life?
What if we switched the question from “Am I?”
To a statement of,
Yes we only flipped the words, but there is so much significance in doing this! We go from questioning ourselves to making a statement. Instead of asking ourselves “Am I this” or “Am I that”, we go to making a statement saying “I am this” or “I am that”.
One of the things Pastor Steven challenges you to do in the book is make a list that consist of the statement “I Am”. So I made my list and here are some of what I came up with: I am strong, confident, arrogant, a good husband, a good father, unqualified, athletic, driven, a sore loser and frustrated.
I want to challenge you to make up a statement list starting with “I AM”. Be bold and honest with yourselves when it comes to making this list. List concepts such as identity, character and weaknesses. Once your list is done, highlight what you like and what you don’t like. In 2018, let’s make a resolution that we all can keep. Let’s take a couple of those weaknesses and strive to be a better version of ourselves this year. Let’s continue to strive to be the best disciple of Christ we can be!
Happy New Years and God Bless